I recently met a woman who’s grandmother had just passed away. When she went through her grandmothers things, she found piles of clothes with tags still on and boxes of special china and silverware that had never been used. She said her grandmother was always waiting for a special occasion. Her story made me sad, but it also made me think.
I remember feeling a little bit ashamed that I’m not already a full time actress. I’ve felt like this for years, especially living in Los Angeles where the facade of living a glamorous life is amplified. I have a part time job, and though it’s not always how I’d like to spend my time, I’ve grown to relax into the process of my acting journey.
Ya’ll it’s been a JOURNEY loving my hair. I’ve been relaxed, natural, texturized, and back to natural. Today I wouldn’t trade my texture of hair for anyone else’s. I’m proud of it and I love it.
Detangling: Wetting, Combing, applying product, and twisting. They are normal everyday ordinary things that most people do on a daily basis.
The key for me was a shift in emotion and mindset.
HIT PLAY ON THIS SIMPLE TOP KNOT BUN VIDEO TUTORIAL
STEP BY STEP GUIDE TO CREATE A TOP KNOT BUN USING YOUR OWN HAIR
To create this top knot bun, it’s best to begin with dry, slightly stretched out hair. Styling my hair dry allows me to see more length in the finished hairstyle.
STYLE # 1
- Detangle hair as much as you can without breakage.
- Use a spray bottle filled with water, and spray perimeter of hair (edges) and leave the center dry.
- Apply a gel on top of the wet parts of the hair.
- Brush and smooth hair into a ponytail using a seamless ponytail holder.
- From the center of ponytail, separate a chunk of loose hair.
- Two strand twist the chunk of hair and fold it back onto itself and pin it.
- Doing this should create a mini bun in the center of the ponytail.
- With the remaining hair surrounding the mini bun, stretch and pin small pieces over and across the bun to create more volume. Do this until you have a bun.
Alternatively, you may want to use a donut bun to create more fullness.
Step 5 (optional)
- Appy gel to your front hairline and style your edges.
- Place and tie a scarf around your edges to flaten and set the design.
Wait 10 to 20 mintues to allow the style to set before removing the scarf.
STYLE # 2
- Use a bundle of clip in extensions and layer at least two tracks on top of one another for thickness.
- Braid each set together with multiple large braids per track.
- Flip tracks upside down and wrap them around the base of the ponytail.
- Clip or pin wefts in place.
- Fold, cross, and lay braids across top knot bun until the real bun is no longer visible, and it appears completely braided.
- Use bobby pins to secure the faux braids in place.
And that completes style number two! Feel free to add decorative hair jewely and accessories to the bun to express your unique style.
ABOUT MY MAKEUP
This style is quick and very easy to do. Perfect for work, events, and the holiday season. I’m also in the process of putting together some holiday hair and fashion content. I’m very excited to share my ideas with you!
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In this tutorial, not only am I teaching how to create a fluffy twistout on type 4 natural hair, I’m also teaching how to style an updo with bangs. I found a really cute headband that I wanted to create a tutorial around. The headband is sold out, but I recommend going to Forever 21 and finding their cheap hair accessories to spruce up simple hairstyles.
A SHORT FILM
Valentine’s Day is approaching so I’ve decided to present a full “Get Ready With Me” short film taking your through my makeup, hair, and outfit for this special occasion. The makeup features soft pinks and the hair is a 4 c natural hair updo with clip in extensions. I don’t typically do makeup tutorials, but I thought it would be fun and interesting to do it in a way that told a story and revealed a little bit about myself. I hope my storytelling resonates with you and that you can take my ideas into a wonderful Valentine’s Day.
GET THE LOOK
Makeup Forever Step 1 Smoothing Primer • Too Faced Shadow Insurance • Mac Espresso Eyeshadow • NYX Tinted Brow Mascara • LA Girl Pro Conceal Medium Beige • Illamasqua Skin Base Foundation “SB 15” • Revlon Colorstay Oily/combo “380 Rich Ginger” • Ben Nye Banana Luxury Powder • Ben Nye “Mellow Orange MO-Deep” corrector • NYX Blush “Amber” • NYX Luxurious Black Label Compact “Almond”
Duo Eyelash Adhesive • Ardell Lashes 110 • Diorshow Iconic Overcurl * Kat Von D Tattoo liner “Trooper” • Sephora Waterproof 12hr pencil “Black Lace” • Marc Jacobs “216 The Enigma” • Too Faced Chocolate Bon Bons Palette “Bordeaux” • Mac cosmetics “Carbon” • Ben Nye Lipliner “Maroon” • Marc Jacobs Lipstick “216 Kiss Kiss Bang Bang” • Lancôme Lip Lover “316”
NO MATTER WHAT, TREAT YOURSELF
Valentine’s Day is marketed for couples, but I think it can simply be a day of expression of love. Single? hang out with your friends or give yourself a full day of pampering. You should definitely buy yourself some chocolate and flowers. Who says you need someone else to feel special? Celebrate the love of those in your life right now. Celebrate Self Love!
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I Chopped Off My Hair
I did it! My 2nd big chop after 18 months transitioning from a texturizer. I have no regrets. I feel the most beautiful I have ever felt with my natural texture and I will continue to enjoy the multitude of things I can do with my hair. Weaves, wigs, and color are probably still on the horizon for me, but the most important thing is that I love my own hair. Yes, it will continue to drive me crazy the longer it gets when I need to detangle. Ugh! But it comes with the territory. I’m taking the good with the bad this 2017. I LOVE MY 4C HAIR!!!
My First Big Chop on October 8, 2010
We've come a long way
My understanding of my 4 c hair has grown as well as my love for it. I had no idea what was in store for me, but I am so happy I decided to share my hair journey with you. I hope this post encourages you to continue on your personal journey, wherever it takes you. Remember, I’ve been intentionally natural twice, relaxed, texturized, had an S curl, and have big chopped three times in my life. Each step has taught me more about my hair and myself. It hasn’t always been pleasant, but it has been informative. Here’s to navigating through the winding road called “hair journey”. HHJ loves!
PERFECT COLOR, CUT, AND STYLE FOR TEXTURED HAIR
My hair cut, colored blue-black, and pressed
If you’ve read my blog post, Meet My Mother, you know that my mother was was visiting from New York for the first time in six years. Yes, you read that right. Instead of requesting a good old fashioned meal, I requested a hair makeover. In true hair lover fashion. Oh come on, if your mother was a talented cosmetologist I’m sure you would have done the same thing. When a woman is that good with hair, you don’t pass up on any opportunities.
As always, she did a fabulous job. I’m including the youtube video below so you can see all of the steps in action. Trust me, it’s worth watching. It’s full of tips and tricks, and if you’re like me, seeing the technique is just as important as reading the steps. Watch the video below.
Before you begin, lay out all of the products you will need and place them in arm’s length. Here’s a quick video demo of the products I used.
WHAT YOU NEED
- Shampoo the hair. Using semi-permanent color requires clean damp hair.
- Detangle the hair. We did this step off camera because, though my hair is texturized, it can still be a process to get out every tangle. Especially considering the hair at my root is much thicker.
- Create four sections of hair to work with and clip them up. My mother likes to use butterfly clips, but I prefer duck bill clips. Either way, keeping the hair in sections for organization keeps the hair neat and speeds up the process. The last thing you want to do is fight with tangles and unruly hair while applying a hair color.
- Apply the hair dye from root to tip. We used Clairol’s Jazzings hair color in 99 Bluest black. Because the hair at my roots is much thicker, we wanted to make sure the dye could saturate each strand in that area first. Feel free to apply your dye from tip to root. I’ve seen it done both ways. The good news is, because we’re not bleaching my hair, there isn’t the same urgency in time required.
- Next, cover the hair with a processing cap, a towel, and let it process for 20 minutes. There’s no need to sit under a dryer. Adding body heat takes the color from a temporary wash-out dye to a semi-permanent color that lasts 6-8 weeks.
- After the dye has processed, remove the processing cap and add the clear gloss directly on top of the first dye. We used Clairol’s Jazzings temporary hair color in 10 Clear. Put the processing cap back on and let the hair process for another 10 minutes. This seals in additional shine.
- Rinse and shampoo with a color safe shampoo. As my mother states in the video, it isn’t advised to apply conditioner to hair that is freshly dyed because it fades the color, but using a color safe conditioner is okay in this case. My hair is naturally very dry and if I don’t apply proper conditioners, it will get brittle and break off during styling.
- Rinse and detangle. Feel free to detangle with conditioner still in the hair for manageability. Repeat detangling after the final rinse and part hair in four sections to begin blowdrying.
- Apply your leave-in styling products and heat protectant. We chose Luster’s Pink Oil Moisturizer, Bumble & Bumble’s Invisible Oil primer, and Biosilk’s Silk Therapy. These products combined give my hair softness, shine, and bounce.
- Blow dry the hair. Use a blowdryer with a concentrated nozzle for faster dry time and a metal vent brush that holds on to the heat and straightens the hair better. A good blow-dry before flat ironing the hair pulls it straight instead of smashing it between two irons. Flat ironing is best when used as a smoothing tool. My blowdryer is Conair Ion Shine 1875.
- If you need a trim, this is a good place to do it. Unless you plan on flat ironing the hair bone straight.
- Flat iron into the desired style. As seen in the video above, my mother actually flat ironed and curled at the same time. It cuts down on steps and heat applied.
And there you have it! Beautiful, healthy looking hair with shine and tons of bounce. Just for my readers, I’ve added a special “hair porn” clip. I can’t be the only one who likes watching these.
SHARE YOUR FAVORITE TIPS
I’d love to know the products you like to use as well. Whenever I make my next haircare trip, I like to have a mini list of things to check out. Thanks in advance for sharing!
In the video above, I’ve walked you through the whole process of achieving this flawless twist-out.
However, in case you wanted a closer look, I’ve uploaded separate videos just for you below.
The twist-out. Many of us go YEARS without finding the product that will make the time we put into twisting our hair worth the while. For example, I toil over my hair for, sometimes, hours of styling, but when I walk outside–POOF! All of my definition is lost, my hair shrinks and draws up, and it looks like I didn’t put much effort into it at all. And sure, your co-workers can’t figure out why you frown when they say “ I love your hair, today!“, but you know. You spent hours washing, detangling, twisting, and letting your hair dry and the proof is NOT in the pudding. Well, rest assured. If you happen to have type 4 hair and you want a technique and product that will make your work count, I just may have found what you’ve been looking for.
Carol’s Daughter has some of my all-time favorite products in her line. These two are no exception. The Loc Butter has been discontinued, but feel free to use The Healthy Hair Butter or Mimosa Hair Honey to get the same results.. Both of these are really heavy on the hair and have a heavy herbal scent. If you have thin hair that gets weighed down easily, or aren’t into heavy scents, these products not for you.
The Loc Butter has some great ingredients including Coco butter, Shea butter, and Beeswax. I use it for twist-outs, but you can also use it for loc maintenance. The Healthy Hair Butter ingredients include Jojoba oil, Shea Butter, Beeswax, and Rosemary. Both are FREE OF silicones, parabens, mineral oil, petroleum, and artificial colors. I chose the Loc butter because it offers a little bit more hold. By just a touch.
I also use a bit of water in a spray bottle to re moisten my hair because I chose to blow-dry on dry hair.
Because I wanted my hair to have more length, I chose to use my Conair Ion Shine 1875 blowdryer. It has 1875 watts, uses ceramic tourmaline technology, and has two heat settings. If you can, use the concentrated nozzle for better results. This step is optional.
UNTWISTING MY HAIR
RECREATE THIS LOOK
Necklace: H&M | Earrings: H&M | Shirt: Love Culture | Skirt: Cream II | Shoes: H&M | Purse: H&M
My hair’s on point and my ‘fit pulls it all together. Time to head out and turn some heads 😉
If you have a holy grail twist-out product, share it in the comments! I’m always on the lookout for a dope new product.