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Post Pregnancy Hair Struggle

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Ya’ll it’s been a JOURNEY loving my hair. I’ve been relaxed, natural, texturized, and back to natural. Today I wouldn’t trade my texture of hair for anyone else’s. I’m proud of it and I love it.

Detangling: Wetting, Combing, applying product, and twisting. They are normal everyday ordinary things that most people do on a daily basis.

The key for me was a shift in emotion and mindset.

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Valentine’s Day Get Ready With Me (Short Film)

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Valentine’s Day is approaching so I’ve decided to present a full “Get Ready With Me” short film taking your through my makeup, hair, and outfit for this special occasion. The makeup features soft pinks and the hair is a 4 c natural hair updo with clip in extensions. I don’t typically do makeup tutorials, but I thought it would be fun and interesting to do it in a way that told a story and revealed a little bit about myself. I hope my storytelling resonates with you and that you can take my ideas into a wonderful Valentine’s Day.


Hair Details

Makeup Details

Clothing Details

Dress | Hot Miami Styles • Jacket | Hot Miami Styles * Shoes | Zara • Necklace | Tiffany & Co | • Watch | Apple



Valentine’s Day is marketed for couples, but I think it can simply be a day of expression of love. Single? hang out with your friends or give yourself a full day of pampering. You should definitely buy yourself some chocolate and flowers. Who says you need someone else to feel special? Celebrate the love of those in your life right now. Celebrate Self Love!

My Second Big Chop

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I Chopped Off My Hair

I did it! My 2nd big chop after 18 months transitioning from a texturizer. I have no regrets. I feel the most beautiful I have ever felt with my natural texture and I will continue to enjoy the multitude of things I can do with my hair. Weaves, wigs, and color are probably still on the horizon for me, but the most important thing is that I love my own hair. Yes, it will continue to drive me crazy the longer it gets when I need to detangle. Ugh! But it comes with the territory. I’m taking the good with the bad this 2017. I LOVE MY 4C HAIR!!!

My First Big Chop on October 8, 2010

We've come a long way

My understanding of my 4 c hair has grown as well as my love for it. I had no idea what was in store for me, but I am so happy I decided to share my hair journey with you. I hope this post encourages you to continue on your personal journey, wherever it takes you. Remember, I’ve been intentionally natural twice, relaxed, texturized, had an S curl, and have big chopped three times in my life. Each step has taught me more about my hair and myself. It hasn’t always been pleasant, but it has been informative. Here’s to navigating through the winding road called “hair journey”. HHJ loves!

12 Step Guide to Perfect Hair Color at Home

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My hair cut, colored blue-black, and pressed

Side shot

If you’ve read my blog post, Meet My Mother, you know that my mother was was visiting from New York for the first time in six years. Yes, you read that right. Instead of requesting a good old fashioned meal, I requested a hair makeover. In true hair lover fashion.  Oh come on, if your mother was a talented cosmetologist I’m sure you would have done the same thing. When a woman is that good with hair, you don’t pass up on any opportunities.


During. Video screen shot

As always, she did a fabulous job. I’m including the youtube video below so you can see all of the steps in action. Trust me, it’s worth watching. It’s full of tips and tricks, and if you’re like me, seeing the technique is just as important as reading the steps. Watch the video below.

Before you begin, lay out all of the products you will need and place them in arm’s length. Here’s a quick video demo of the products I used.


Clairol Jazzing Semi Permanent Hair color in Bluest Black and Clear

Pink Oil Moisturizer to soften, condition, and style for shine.

Butterfly clips to keep hair sectioned

Bumble and Bumble Invisible Oil for heat protection and shine.

  1. Shampoo the hair. Using semi-permanent color requires clean damp hair.
  2. Detangle the hair. We did this step off camera because, though my hair is texturized, it can still be a process to get out every tangle. Especially considering the hair at my root is much thicker.
  3. Create four sections of hair to work with and clip them up. My mother likes to use butterfly clips, but I prefer duck bill clips. Either way, keeping the hair in sections for organization keeps the hair neat and speeds up the process. The last thing you want to do is fight with tangles and unruly hair while applying a hair color.
  4. Apply the hair dye from root to tip. We used Clairol’s Jazzings hair color in 99 Bluest black. Because the hair at my roots is much thicker, we wanted to make sure the dye could saturate each strand in that area first. Feel free to apply your dye from tip to root. I’ve seen it done both ways. The good news is, because we’re not bleaching my hair, there isn’t the same urgency in time required.
  5. Next, cover the hair with a processing cap, a towel, and let it process for 20 minutes. There’s no need to sit under a dryer. Adding body heat takes the color from a temporary wash-out dye to a semi-permanent color that lasts 6-8 weeks.
  6. After the dye has processed, remove the processing cap and add the clear gloss directly on top of the first dye. We used Clairol’s Jazzings temporary hair color in 10 Clear. Put the processing cap back on and let the hair process for another 10 minutes. This seals in additional shine.
  7. Rinse and shampoo with a color safe shampoo. As my mother states in the video, it isn’t advised to apply conditioner to hair that is freshly dyed because it fades the color, but using a color safe conditioner is okay in this case. My hair is naturally very dry and if I don’t apply proper conditioners, it will get brittle and break off during styling.
  8. Rinse and detangle. Feel free to detangle with conditioner still in the hair for manageability. Repeat detangling after the final rinse and part hair in four sections to begin blowdrying.
  9. Apply your leave-in styling products and heat protectant. We chose Luster’s Pink Oil Moisturizer, Bumble & Bumble’s Invisible Oil primer, and Biosilk’s Silk Therapy. These products combined give my hair softness, shine, and bounce.
  10. Blow dry the hair. Use a blowdryer with a concentrated nozzle for faster dry time and a metal vent brush that holds on to the heat and straightens the hair better.  A good blow-dry before flat ironing the hair pulls it straight instead of smashing it between two irons. Flat ironing is best when used as a smoothing tool. My blowdryer is Conair Ion Shine 1875.
  11. If you need a trim, this is a good place to do it. Unless you plan on flat ironing the hair bone straight.
  12. Flat iron into the desired style. As seen in the video above, my mother actually flat ironed and curled at the same time. It cuts down on steps and heat applied.

And there you have it! Beautiful, healthy looking hair with shine and tons of bounce.  Just for my readers, I’ve added a special “hair porn” clip. I can’t be the only one who likes watching these.


I’d love to know the products you like to use as well. Whenever I make my next haircare trip, I like to have a mini list of things to check out. Thanks in advance for sharing!

How To Get an Defined Twistout on 4 C Hair

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The twist-out. Many of us go YEARS without finding the product that will make the time we put into twisting our hair worth the while. For example, I toil over my hair for, sometimes, hours of styling, but when I walk outside–POOF! All of my definition is lost, my hair shrinks and draws up, and it looks like I didn’t put much effort into it at all. And sure, your co-workers can’t figure out why you frown when they say “ I love your hair, today!“, but you know. You spent hours washing, detangling, twisting, and letting your hair dry and the proof is NOT in the pudding. Well, rest assured. If you happen to have type 4 hair and you want a technique and product that will make your work count, I just may have found what you’ve been looking for.

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