Impostor syndrome is one of the worst feelings you can have when you embarking on a new business venture. It says, “who the hell do you think you are to be doing that?” I face it and if you’re a goal getter, you probably face it too. Here’s a few tips on how to overcome that dreadful feeling.
I recently met a woman who’s grandmother had just passed away. When she went through her grandmothers things, she found piles of clothes with tags still on and boxes of special china and silverware that had never been used. She said her grandmother was always waiting for a special occasion. Her story made me sad, but it also made me think.
I remember feeling a little bit ashamed that I’m not already a full time actress. I’ve felt like this for years, especially living in Los Angeles where the facade of living a glamorous life is amplified. I have a part time job, and though it’s not always how I’d like to spend my time, I’ve grown to relax into the process of my acting journey.
I miss my family often. Sometimes I think life would be so much easier if I worked a 9-5 and was content with only that. I’ve sacrificed a lot of time and missed a lot of events pursuing my dreams. I know fellow dream catchers know what it’s like. The understanding and support needed from loved ones is insurmountable. It’s tough.
Ya’ll it’s been a JOURNEY loving my hair. I’ve been relaxed, natural, texturized, and back to natural. Today I wouldn’t trade my texture of hair for anyone else’s. I’m proud of it and I love it.
Detangling: Wetting, Combing, applying product, and twisting. They are normal everyday ordinary things that most people do on a daily basis.
The key for me was a shift in emotion and mindset.
For most of my life I’ve been on and off about making my bed. But for the past three months, I’ve made it a priority to make the bed every single morning without excuse.
First I began because I wanted my space to look better, but I quickly realized it made me feel like I have my crap together. And I LOVE that feeling. The funny thing is, I actually got more organized and felt a bigger push to be more productive.
In my last post featuring my new YouTube channel trailer, I talked about doing ordinary things on a consistent basis that has helped guide me into the woman I’m becoming. I’m an actress and a storyteller. So I took my own advice and stepped away from YouTube to do some ordinary things like sleep, spend time with my family, and get back into acting class. My time away led to some pretty wonderful things. I consider myself blessed to be able to share these moments with you.
I remember standing on a train platform in Chicago on the last day of having a nine to five in that city. I had a big Afro matched with big ambition. I moved into a tiny Los Angeles apartment that felt like a shoebox with a bathroom attached. I literally slept in the same room as my stove.
I made Youtube videos about my hair and worked part time as a makeup artist. But I didn’t care, because I was going to be on TV. I had just shot my first television episodes as a guest star on a hit Soap Opera and I had a feeling more good things would come. And they did.
I’m on TV again y’all and this time it’s for BET. I live for the moments I get to tell you all good news in my acting career! My episode airs July 7th and I will be playing Chiquita Tate, a wonderful lawyer who gets brutally and mysteriously murdered. Also, I have to appologize…